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We are all quite good at communicating our qualities, both verbally and non-verbally. Others are quite good at reading them. The key to success with a woman is therefore not in the art of verbal communication, but in the qualities of the man himself and in understanding women's expectations. What women want in men and why is very difficult to define. For example, most women will say that a man should be nice. In reality, what they mean is that he will not hurt her, is kind, will respect her, is willing to take care of her and share, or a complex of other interconnected qualities - the criteria according to which a woman evaluates a man.

We will describe 2 basic criteria that women expect from men - Harmlessness of the man and Interest in being a long-term partner, as well as a mix of compatible bonus characteristics.

What women want in men is actually one side of the coin, and How to Meet a Woman is the other side of the coin. The key is to understand women's expectations of men. How to meet a girl and a woman It is only necessary to develop these basics into more specific recommendations and we will dedicate a separate article to getting to know a woman.

The emphasis is on the dating phase. It is crucial. Long-term decisions are made, which we then prefer to maintain. In the dating phase, you also often don't get a second chance. Unlike in a long-term relationship, we don't have to realize our mistake even after many unsuccessful dates. But we will also look at women's expectations of men in long-term relationships.

The findings here are based mainly on my observations - interviews on this topic with 300 men aged 15-40 during the years 1998-2026, as well as studies of sexual behavior that I can no longer refer to, and a few referenced sources.

It's a lot of words - say it succinctly like AI, what a woman wants from a man

It won't help you in short, but if you want something brief to start with, more in the article How to meet a girl and a woman

1. Low risk of harm from the man (“feeling safe”) + giving space

The first of 2 necessary criteria. A woman first assesses the risk of a man hurting her. Regardless of any negative experiences a woman may have with men. Men have biologically greater strength and, as a result, historically and socially higher status, i.e. the power to hurt. See more in the article How to meet a girl and a woman?

Getting a contact and a first date can be easier than finding and expressing harmlessness within yourself. A man's harmlessness is a primary criterion for a woman. Women express the criterion of a man's harmlessness more diplomatically as "a feeling of safety", but by that they mean a feeling of safety primarily in front of the man himself. A man's harmlessness also goes hand in hand with other qualities that a woman will later appreciate separately, but in the first phase they are perceived by a woman only as attributes of a man's harmlessness - a sense of security, gentleness, honesty, modesty, interest in a woman, consideration, calmness and the absence of emotional dependence on a woman (especially if the woman does not know the man yet). Or tolerance and a normal, not high, ego.

A man expresses harmlessness by being nice, by relaxing the conversation (positive jokes = perspective) and by giving space. Especially by the absence of demands or situations that would put a woman in front of a decision prematurely. For example, asking about another meeting - when there is no chemistry or the woman does not know yet. That is, restraint - giving up effort and initiative, suppressing self-centeredness on the part of the man. Even at the cost that there will be no more chance of another meeting. In such a situation, it is better to let it go and talk about a chance in a year. In popular terms - not to push the saw - give space. Suppress yourself and your demands.

Every person needs space so that they do not perceive the other as a nuisance. However, space from a man to a woman does not only reduce the impression of the risk of harm from a man in the evaluation of a woman. It is difficult for a young man to understand this, because he often either likes a woman immediately or not. A woman is a priority for him and a man wants to spend a lot of time or all of his time with her until he has her. A woman evaluates more things in a man and needs time for them. A man is not a priority for a woman in the dating phase and a woman often does not need to see a man every day.

The freedom of both men and women also falls under harmlessness. If you suddenly give a woman your heart on a plate, no matter what she does (you are not your own), it must scare her. Then the woman does not know what kind of man he is and what kind of threat you will be when the charm wears off. At the same time, you put the woman in an uncomfortable position where she has to return the feelings or reject them - you are taking away space and freedom. Therefore, it is simply wrong to seriously express your feelings until you have signals from the woman that she wants you as a partner. This will only work for middle-aged and older women who have already enjoyed enough unpleasantness with men. But even then, you will ruin the romantic part. Expressing your feelings to another person prematurely is not courage, but rather cowardice, recklessness and a desire for a shortcut. The same applies if you feel like stealing a touch, holding or caressing a hand or a kiss. A fleeting test friendly touch or provocation or nudge is appropriate. But if the woman does not respond positively to the touch, then avoid another attempt at touching for fun, at least during the current meeting and definitely do not try anything more, such as caressing and holding hands or even kissing. I would not have recognized it myself. A good friend told me about the unpleasantness of my touches only after some time. But I empathized with such a woman best when a gay man repeatedly touched me for 10 minutes, even though I repeatedly told him that I was into girls. Experience with the same sex is unacceptable for most people, but it can be quite an eye-opener for a heterosexual relationship.

Harmlessness and space also include the absence of jealousy. A little jealousy can be cute and funny, but it is always a negative trait. Be careful, but get rid of jealousy completely. A woman does not belong to you, you are not her slave or master. What a woman does in her free time is her business.

2. A unique interest in a woman to be her partner – reliability, loyalty, willingness to share

The second of the 2 necessary criteria. More for completeness. The criterion has no problem meeting some 70% people.

A unique interest in being a long-term partner, which means that you are single and view the woman as your only long-term partner (not a temporary comfort, etc.). A unique interest can be expressed to a decently known woman from the neighborhood or to a suddenly unknown woman on the street.

The uniqueness of interest is related to the fact that you have something to offer. To be a life partner. If a man is looking for a lover, without any judgment, it is in fact either a future painful failure with a woman or a future life partner. Or simply a prostitute, who is the only one from the given man - that is, rather a customer - does not expect a willingness to share emotionally and even more so demands an immediate division of money. Even if a woman is for sex - in my experience, 1 in 50, she does not want a charger, excitement or sponsor. She wants a partner. This is certainly the biggest difference between a man and a woman.

A serious interest in a long-term partnership is inextricably linked to reliability (= essentially trustworthiness), loyalty, and a willingness to share. An extension of reliability is the ability to take care of yourself and handle crisis situations.

The unique interest in a life partner as the 2nd most important criterion for a woman is clearly reflected by men who hide their wife or main partner from their mistresses, or vice versa, their mistress from their wife :).

The interest should be unique, regardless of whether it is a woman from your neighborhood or a woman you don't know. If that's the case, women will sense it. I've mostly had success with the most beautiful girls on the street. If I only half liked the girl visually, she sensed it and didn't give me contact.

In the long term, it works a little differently. It can also be described as a willingness to invest exclusively or enormously in a relationship, not only emotionally, but also in time and financially. Feelings and restrictions of freedom for the benefit of the other are not free either. It is estimated that 95% women ideally demand exclusivity in the emotional aspect – 100% investment from a man. This is much more than in financial or time requirements. Sometimes, to our detriment, we forget that the more a person invests in a long-term relationship, the more they can demand. In case of dissatisfaction, sometimes it is necessary to leave, but sometimes, strangely enough, it is enough to just ask for more. Even if such a demand were to come as a real shock after 20 years of marriage.

With a woman in your neighborhood, you have many chances to express interest and harmlessness. With my femme fatale, it went pretty much by itself. I told my colleague that I was done with her, to let her introduce me. He told me to stay away, that she was single. I respected that for a combination of reasons – both of us were single, colleagues, but also because I liked her so much. We never spoke. About once a month we would run into each other by chance in the hallway or at lunch. I didn't know her at all, but I would always say hello and stare hungrily, without shame, but without entitlement, at her face and figure until she passed me. I didn't look away out of politeness. Despite all the awkwardness, I didn't want it any other way. Two years later, I greeted her like this at lunch with the kids and felt that her gaze was a little deeper and more searching. But nothing occurred to me at the time. About a week later, she looked at me again at lunch and I looked down. Then she wrote me an email. She said she didn't know how to get to know me anymore because I don't go to any company events. It was years of misery for me after the separation, but those 6 weeks were definitely the happiest time of my life and it wasn't about sex at all.

More confident women from Southeast Asia sometimes snuggle up to their husbands or boyfriends in public. Not for comfort, but to let everyone else know their territory – don't touch, it's mine. People almost never do it, either out of shame or out of supposed consideration for others. When your beautiful wife or girlfriend does it, it's quite pleasant and funny for a mature man. As an immature and madly in love, I was melting with happiness at the time :). It must work similarly for women, but the line between a welcome expression of interest and a violation of space and safety is much thinner there.

3. Physical and mental attraction – chemistry – compatible trait settings

Physical attraction

We can improve our figure (see the meaning of figure later in the text) and grooming. We will not be influenced by the fact that we are not the right type. However, the physical side of a man generally has less importance than is attributed in the media. That is why we will discuss this later in the sections Body and Face.

Mental compatibility

There, perhaps up to 100% can be influenced. Traits – what people like (not) and how they deal with life situations is determined by upbringing, experience and the direction in which a person wants to move their will. It is necessary to have as many abilities and good mental qualities as possible and sometimes even mentally move towards a partner.

In movies, we know it in the good way – a man and a woman having a great time and complementing each other – mental similarity or partial soul connection. Basically like a best friend, enriched with love and sex :). Unfortunately, complete soul connection is only possible for one couple in a million and is far from necessary. Honestly, if I hadn't experienced it briefly, I would never have believed it.

Entertainment

Many women, unlike men, mention fun. Fun when dating or in a long-term relationship is always a bonus. But, animals and humans do not primarily expect fun from a partner. Rather, I think that fun is primarily about getting to know the man's qualities as a woman as a partner, i.e. compatibility with the woman's qualities and attitudes and reassurance of the man's interest in the woman.

Only secondarily is fun about the joy and momentary good mood of a woman, although these are largely related vessels. If she is not having fun with a man, a woman will often evaluate him as incompatible, whether because of differences in attitudes or because he has not sufficiently demonstrated his qualities. The atmosphere that a woman is enjoying herself with a man will not always be successful. You do not always have to charm and perform performances that you have no experience in, especially at a young age. A young woman does not expect them. Do not measure yourself by television, where entertaining scripts are written by teams of experienced women and men. Often, it is enough for a woman and a man to feel good.

Passion, chemistry, spark

Physical, mental attraction and fun complement each other and enhance or limit each other. When it works out in these areas, we call it Attraction or Chemistry or Spark. It is a mix of good compatible qualities, which we describe in more detail below.

4. Reassuring communication – continuous attention, listening, continuous expressions of interest, gifts and romance

Jealous or less confident partners need continuous expressions of interest. We hear complaints about a lack of attention from our partners relatively often. So people can probably live with it well.

My wife always reproached me for not talking to her and for talking to others more than to her. When you see someone after a year, you talk to them more than to a woman every day. That's why I learned to say all sorts of nonsense, mostly about sex, and I also touch them in front of our friends so that everyone is ashamed. And she likes it, it calms her down. When I tell this to some women who have experienced violent behavior from men, I see the horror on their faces and then I have to explain it :).

Gifts and romance are highly promoted in the media and women demand them. But they have no greater significance beyond the willingness to share. More important is psychological attention and overall care. The proof of this is very easy. Every gift is forgotten after a few days. That sounds more like a joke and an insult to women, but I mean it as a fact and completely without offense. It makes sense. Gifts have, I would say, a negligible impact, except for a relationship built on gifts. Gifts and romance serve more as a prestigious matter that women brag about to their friends than as a real satisfaction of a woman's needs. Romance as an unusual experience serves to express a unique interest.

In a long-term relationship, however, the media's romantic image distorts reality and causes unnecessary inconvenience. In almost every film, women are told that they need to entertain women all evening, then have a long chat and, if it's great, have sex with them for one minute as a reward. For example, women demand that men talk, even if there's nothing new, i.e. attention. Women demand cuddling instead of sex. Partly because of the film's image of romance. Sometimes because of the fear of harm from sex or even as an attempt to escape from sex (pain, health problems - e.g. inflammation).

The average man desires sex more often than a woman. He may be confused or frustrated in a long-term relationship with one-sided emotional attention. He is asked for attention from a woman - nice communication about nothing or cuddling, from which, thanks to the media image, the otherwise naturally associated sex disappears. Alternatively, it can be perceived as a man paying attention to a woman at her request and confirming his interest in the woman, but the woman does not confirm her interest in the man with a sexual act. Most often, in a long-term relationship, the partners limit each other's emotional attention, or one of the partners loses the need for emotional attention. Of course, if the woman does not demand attention from the man and does not expect anything from him (e.g., they are breaking up or have an open relationship), there is no point in talking about attention for the man.

But balance can also be found by both partners maintaining intense mutual attention. That is, rejecting the media image of cuddly intimacy with a minimum of tender sex and combining attention and intimate communication with sex. Even with hard natural sex (not romantic movie sex), if one wants it and it does not hurt the other. That is, a woman who desires a man's attention will prefer a certain discomfort in sex beyond her needs or will tolerate concerns during sex over losing a man's attention or long-term interest in her. For example, I would welcome other men to my wife, but she doesn't want to hear about it. I have other women forbidden. She has her way in both. She wants me to show her attention every day. In order to stay together, but also because it is simply pleasant, we have more frequent and more intense emotional communication beyond my needs and more frequent and more intense sexual sex beyond her needs.

However, if you are jealous or overly jealous and take away your woman's space, she may perceive even nice reassuring gestures negatively.

5. At least approximately equivalent education

If a woman has a higher education than a man, it is often a problem in a relationship. Maybe it didn't matter so much before 1989, when Czechoslovakia was a "workers' state" (Wow, I don't even remember the last time I used or even wrote the word Czechoslovakia - in high school in 1997?). The importance of this criterion may decrease in the future with the emancipation of women, but there will probably still be a security aspect of balance on the part of the woman. In practice, this selection is not actually restrictive. In youth, no one has a higher education, and later we often choose from classmates or colleagues.

6. Relational and sexual fidelity

Relational fidelity is part of long-term interest in a woman (see all). People, especially women, mistakenly evaluate sexual fidelity as proof of relationship fidelity and therefore it is very important for them in itself, not just as a part of relationship fidelity. However, we perceive sexual and relationship fidelity as quite irrational and unnatural, which is why we will discuss it in more detail in a separate article: Infidelity – we feel guilty unjustly and unnecessarily.

7. Mix of bonus traits for a higher chance of compatibility

If you pass the criteria of harmlessness and unique interest in being a partner, a woman will start to examine whether you have a mix of sufficiently good qualities. It is a mix and there is no point in prioritizing here. These qualities should be seen as bonuses and not always necessary. I put money first because for some women it is a clear condition for men and not just a bonus.

Sufficient financial strength for a relatively comfortable family life

We tend to underestimate them, both thanks to television and because they don't play a major role until about 25. At the age of 25+ (the age of finding a life partner), it is a necessity for many women (30 to 40%), even well-off women.

Sufficient financial strength for a relatively comfortable family life can be achieved quite reasonably. For someone with relatively normal for someone with great effort. A completely different level is being a rich man. It is something like a top or. good figure in a woman. It may not be, but it greatly improves the choice and negotiating position. Actually any position :).

General empathy will bring people closer and help them read signals

Empathy isn't essential to getting a good partner, but it helps immensely with everyone. Some people have empathy from a young age and are quite popular because of it.

Empathy means 2 things – I focus on how others feel, how they express themselves and behave. I ask why they express themselves and behave that way. What is behind it. Secondly, it is especially in a conversation the suppression of ego, self-centeredness and one's passions. You can jump into the conversation and make additions, but you basically orient those additions towards the other person and not that you give a lesson and take over the topic by saying that your experience is such and such and how you solved it well. Similarly, when the other person reacts to your problem, you give them space to express themselves. When the other person finishes, you ask how it went, poke them, etc. You continue in the other person's line. With age and experience, one will also find information with added value in these polite questions or entries into the conversation. That is, it will not just be an artificial expression of interest, but one will ask or add something really interesting or at least funny to the other person.

A person with low empathy will not recognize when you are complaining just for the sake of relief and being heard (most friendly and family chats) - there is only a listening and recognition of the type - everyone is like that, or maybe a joke to drive away sadness and not advice on how to solve it. But also the opposite, a person with low empathy can turn away a person who directly or indirectly asks you for advice on a problem, or minimize the problem. This happens because they focus on themselves and not on the other person. They judge the matter according to their own standards and experiences. There may also be a situation where we approach the other person's problem objectively correctly in general, but in the context of the other person, the solution will be unrealistic or even harmful.

I really missed empathy and still miss it. At least I can see and admire how some other people are able to reduce their ego in a positive sense and focus (connect) on others. I don't intend to write about me, but rather that even an experienced and thoughtful person can have fundamental shortcomings. There is no problem loving yourself - every person primarily has themselves - without themselves, they wouldn't have anything else. It certainly starts with themselves, no matter how much they give for others. However, there is a big difference in communication with others - there, a person has themselves as much as the other person. An empathetic person would perhaps say and really feel that in communication you logically focus more on the other person than on yourself, because you are always with yourself. It should be properly balanced in favor of both communicators, except in cases where one needs support or help.

Humor as entertainment, lower risk of harm, and calming and confirming interest by expressing attention

It changes with age. A sense of humor is great and is often mentioned first, but in reality, about 10-20% people aged 25+ are funnier, even on a reality show. Life is not fun, although it can sometimes be short.

Evaluating the power of humor is challenging. At the basic level, we perceive humor as creating entertainment. However, a man's humor helps a woman assess the risk of harm from a man (he's joking, talking to me - he doesn't want to hurt me or leave me). And a man's humor also reassures a woman that the man is communicating that everything is okay. Especially when a man is making fun of himself, e.g. that he didn't understand something, etc.

One of the biggest life lessons for me was that women like it when a man talks and includes the woman in the message without giving the information. Actually, when a man talks slightly stupid and slightly funny nonsense. Women find it reassuring as attention and confirmation of a man's affection and loyalty. – so actually certain confirmation of interest by expressing attention. That there is nothing wrong with the man. That conversation, however, must not be about the man or about external things. But how do you do that when you see each other every day and have nothing new? You have to learn it and find a way. I make fun of the woman and the things around her a lot. I tease her for sex and I often caress and touch the woman during various activities, even before a visit, to tease and embarrass the woman and the visitor. The woman scolds me for it to my face, shyly pushes me away to my face, but she likes it. It is fun for both of us. It took a while to find a way to each other, even given the great cultural and geographical differences between us.

Attention can also be expressed through praise, gifts for holidays, gestures. But the form of attention is not important. It can also be done with kind words without gifts and gestures, if you invest most or all of your resources in the family. Attention can also be partially replaced by sex, when the desires of a man and a woman intersect in a somewhat bizarre way. A woman would prefer nice communicative attention like in a movie or a gift without the discomfort of exposing her body to sex, but she is satisfied with a substitute - with sex as an expression of attention and emotional presence of a man. Less self-confident women will appreciate attention more.

Modesty, consideration for women and in general

Modesty supports a willingness to share. Consideration supports the harmlessness of a man, the comfort of a woman, but also the good social status of the family - the recognition of others.

Equality – balance and listening

It is not true that women are attracted to dominant men. Quite the opposite. In this, the modern media image coincides with reality. The ideal is balance (giving space and being partly yourself - not being dragged along), then rather men with humility and space for a woman, and only the smallest part of women will appreciate a dominant man.

Women are biologically disadvantaged compared to men. From less strength, menstruation – pain, bleeding, hormonal stress, pregnancy, the need to breastfeed with as few restrictions as possible, through bras and more complicated urination to stereotypes about women. Nature is definitely not equal towards women. Should we guarantee equal rights to women? The clear and not just idealistic answer to that is yes. Otherwise, men would be hitchhiking on women's more demanding biological tasks. Among other things, this is not yet the case in developed countries – typically, undressing and exposing the upper part of the body in public places and schools or breastfeeding in public.

Despite the gradual social alignment of the gender position, there will still be a de facto biological advantage for men. Is it fully compensated by advantages on the part of women? For example, sex as a commodity and the willingness of men to buy women's favor? In my opinion, no, and giving women an advantage is necessary to a certain reasonable extent. Primarily for the belief in the ideal of equality and helping the weaker. Objectively for greater efficiency of society as a result of creating a balanced state of rest between women and men.

That's why I understand when a woman works less than a man for the same salary (although it's paradoxically the other way around in society). And that's why a man should mainly take the lead when things get heated. Not that a man is or isn't the more sensible one. But because a man is the stronger one and can do harm. Unless your wife is a bodybuilder :).

Without listening, a balanced relationship cannot be imagined. By listening to the other person, you firstly show respect. Secondly, you are expected to help with the speech or, in the case of a complaint without a solution, at least give an opinion on whether the complaint is justified or whether the woman perceives it badly. Doubting yourself and consulting critical situations with others, even in the form of a complaint, is not weakness.

I don't know the answer to the situation where a woman has a clear advantage. Apparently she either doesn't show it and it's fine, or it's obvious and the woman is dissatisfied and is looking for something better.

Many couples also work in such a way that one person has the upper hand in the long run. Either the better person learns to hide it or it is not a happy relationship. Sometimes the weaker person does not realize it or does not admit it, so it remains hidden even without effort. A relationship should always aim for equality or at least apparent equality in the long run. It is different if one person has an accident and the other takes care of them. There is no longer equality in the relationship, but a partnership commitment.

Good self-confidence

With good self-confidence, you can withstand an attack or a difficult life situation relatively easily without psychological strain. You are harmless to women and resistant to damage to your relationship or family.

People often confuse ego and self-confidence. People with a big ego have little self-confidence, and conversely, people with high self-confidence do not need others to push their ego. Full self-confidence lies in the absence of any internal conflict – mental balance. Fully self-confident people in the good sense of the word practically do not exist and you can see it in everyone at first glance or after a few words. In my life, I have only met 4 boys and 2 girls who have no internal conflict and can handle any situation without difficulty.

Good self-confidence is definitely not when you hide your demons. Admitting insecurities and exploring them with someone close to you is a sign of good self-confidence, but not wallowing in weakness or bothering others with it. Most of the time, a person is not even aware of the weakness. That's why I talk about "good" self-confidence, and most people have it. It makes a relationship very calm and pleasant. I estimate that 50% people have good self-confidence and only 40% people are slightly broken and 10% are more broken.

Absence of unnecessary honesty

There is no need to be unnecessarily honest about things that have no practical weight. There is no need to compare her beauty with a woman 30 years younger, etc. on your own initiative. And if a woman asks or you slip up yourself (you eye a younger beauty), don't fall into the trap and dismiss it with humor or a flirtatious, slightly guilty tone. "Something caught my eye." "Of course she's prettier, she's 30 years younger," and then make up for it with some other joke. There is no need to explain everything. Imperfection can be forgiven, but it's not good to get carried away. Furthermore, you need to be restrained and careful in criticizing a woman. When a woman (or another person) does something wrong, I praise her ironically, perhaps with a laugh. "That made me/him very happy." This is usually how it ends. If the woman wants to go further, we can explain it.

Honesty

From the perspective of harmlessness and certainty towards the woman, and from the perspective of social recognition of the man's family and thus indirectly the status of the woman.

Tolerance

Excessive criticism can give the impression of being too demanding. Tolerance, on the other hand, means a smaller ego, harmlessness and a good heart. Excessive tolerance can only be harmful in exceptional cases and you can't go wrong with it. The problem can be pretended tolerance :). And of course, there is no point in tolerating what fundamentally bothers you regardless of the circumstances. Then there is no point in even considering the person as a partner and wasting time.

A man's physique and facial appearance are less important than you think

For only 10-20% women, a man's figure and face may be the basic selection criterion. In fact, figure and face are less important for most women and men than the media attributes to them.

Only 101% of men maintain an athletic figure (meaning decent muscles without a stomach) even after the age of 30. So, logically, appearance plays a small role for women (but also for the vast majority of men), even though we constantly see the opposite on TV. We all prefer athletic figures, but we easily sacrifice that preference. We also see that even the partners of super-rich people are not sex symbols. It cannot be said that women would tolerate a bad figure in a partner out of necessity, that men with a good figure at the age of 30+ actually do not. If women cared about men's figures, they would show it.

I estimate that up to 100% women will give a chance to a man with an average face, given favorable circumstances (time, mood, singleness). This is where women differ from men, see the article What men want in women. The face is actually limited only with a more significant deviation - a nose that is too big or when it shows a more serious health problem. The same goes for a man's figure - the problem is not usually slight or moderate overweight, but obesity.

For women under 30, the requirement for a good figure or face may seem a bit more significant. However, from my interviews with young women, I did not feel this requirement and they perceived a good figure and a pretty face in a partner as just a bonus, regardless of their own beauty. For more on figures, see the article What men want in women.

Even in men, beauty is objective. Slightly or moderately athletic figures, faces with moderately prominent cheekbones and thicker hair are most appreciated. According to my facts, however, an imperfect figure and an imperfect face of a man are not a selective criterion for women and they are more interested in the character traits of a man.

When it comes to appearance, I recommend men to shave. Generally, for appearance and for the following reasons. On the face, because bearded men have bigger complexes. Pure empirical experience – out of an estimated 10,000 bearded men I have met – only one had complexes. Except for physical, not mental, work reasons (e.g. boxers' beards make wounds easier to slide off). In the Czech Republic, lawyers have been popular with beards since 2005 – but among those with beards, one of them is usually a bigger, more scraggly idiot than the other. Shave your armpits because it reduces sweat production and also the stench from sweat. Around the penis, testicles, and possibly the anus because of the stench, intimate hygiene, and easier oral sex. Shaving other parts of the body can be an unnecessary time and health burden.

For the sake of interest (in practice negligible), from a racial point of view, whites are the most desirable. For the combination of generally good economic status and the fact that they live in exotic countries less than Asians and blacks in white countries. Even in rich Japan and Korea, whites are an interesting rarity. I only believed it after repeated stories and especially my own experiences from Vietnam and China.

Persistence – gentle courtship – sometimes works – but it’s the road to hell

For some girls, persistent expression of interests can work or start affection. Especially if they have had a bad experience elsewhere. It is often the movie path or the path shown as the right one. A reward for self-sacrifice and perseverance. In my opinion, it is a path to hell for both of them. I forget that sometimes it can be annoying and it always makes them unhappy and frustrated. A man is not primarily the right type for a woman, but persistence bends a woman's preferences. This is the basis for big future problems or at least lifelong dissatisfaction. Look for a person for whom you are close to an ideal counterpart and who likes you right away. In their company, you will enjoy life and not suffer. Even a small country has literally millions of potential partners. Here, the movie path is so stupid – maybe funny, but then a person takes it pointlessly into life. Don't be alone unnecessarily and don't wait for someone who is not interested in you. The biggest stupidity is to worry about life unnecessarily.

Girls don't do this. If a guy isn't interested, they get over it pretty quickly. That's how it's supposed to be. On the other hand, women tend to stick with bad partners in long-term relationships - but it's more complicated with commitments and finances.

5. Properties of relatively little importance

Not Judgy (has no Czech equivalent)

There's no point in writing bad qualities here. But there is one widespread and quite insidiously hidden quality among us – judgment.

Not judging is a modernly expressed trend of not criticizing what you don't understand, especially in relation to others (not, for example, products). Not to be confused with criticality - the result of which can be criticism without knowledge of the matter (judgy), criticism based on a mistake or justified criticism. The closest, but not exact, would be not insulting, not condescending. The media teaches us to condemn and evaluate "bad things". Express your opinion clearly and strongly. This is a bit twisted and unnecessary, especially at a young age. At a young age, there is no need to clearly and strongly express criticism to others and most people keep their mouths shut anyway, except in the pub and household and possibly the office. We also still receive requests for evaluation and feedback from shops and YouTubers. It is therefore socially very often desired and "natural" to evaluate loudly without deeper knowledge and to be judging.

That's why the trend of Not judging among young people is in place. And that's why this bad trait in a woman's partner is relatively tolerated. I recommend that young people think twice about criticizing someone else in front of their partner, or indeed at any time. Do it only when it's really necessary, not to express your opinion. Criticizing others doesn't do any good for older people either, and it's only appropriate when you want to change something, really help something, warn against something, and not to express a condemning opinion.

A typical example of judgmental behavior: “That beggar – he has no money or is fat – should lose weight”. No one can blame poor parents. I don’t know if a fat person has a disease related to food intake. They may also suffer from food poverty – in the Czech Republic, typically fat gypsies who don’t have access to quality food (less fruit, vegetables, quality cooked meals, etc.). Criticism is not intended to help or warn, but only to elevate themselves. It won’t help a fat person, whether they hear it or not. He/she knows that they are fat and that it is bad for life, whether health-wise or due to other limitations. The fact that they don’t do anything about it is a different matter and can be dealt with better if you care about them.

Physical scent plays virtually no role

Asians and blacks really do smell different. There are of course differences within races as well. Many people talk about physical odor, but in the end it's just a pose. On the other hand, even clean people will stand out to their partner with anything from smelly feet to smelly mouth. 99.91% of people will be happy if they don't smell. Perfume has the added value of limiting the growth of bacteria in sweat and therefore the smell from sweat.

Of course, it's good to wear perfume if we're somewhere all day. Not because of the smell, but because it kills bacteria in sweat and therefore the stench. This is doubly true for overweight people aged 30+.

It is not true that women desire a man with father-like qualities.

Such a statement stems from a misunderstanding of the situation. It is simply a pattern of male behavior that they have greater tolerance for. Similar nonsense as if someone claimed that men want a woman who is mentally similar to their mother.

Sex and orgasm play a small role for women

Sex plays a small role for women, according to the vast majority of women and my experience. It is fair to admit that even movies do not try to force something else on us. Cuddling is pleasant for them physically and as an emotional act. But sex itself serves for women more as confirmation of their attractiveness to men, or to please men, or to get something from them - a gift for men.

It's no wonder - men are stronger and sex often hurts women. Women also carry greater health or injury risks - tissue tearing, inflammation, pregnancy. That's why women are more inclined than men to prefer milder sex from romantic movies to natural animal sex. Orgasm for women, despite the media and all the coaches, is not important. Women sometimes prefer the absence of orgasm at the cost of ending sexual activity faster. For the sake of extra time or to prevent potential or real pain and injury. A man can thus find himself in a strange situation where he either does not allow a woman to orgasm or somewhat forces her to orgasm. Here too, balance is needed and the animal in a woman must sometimes be awakened. For all the reasons mentioned above, from all the research and our own experience, we see that foreplay is more important for women. However, there is not always time for foreplay and sometimes foreplay can be sacrificed or, on the contrary, strengthened as part of sexual role playing. That is, to balance sex for the benefit of both.

In a long-term relationship, according to my research, a woman welcomes sex once a month. Beyond this framework, it is more about attention or reward for men and it depends on how much they want to please men. On average, sex, according to surveys of sexual behavior, is once a week or 2 weeks. Only 51% of women are into sex as much as men, and you, on the other hand, don't have to force yourself to orgasm. If you are efficient, you don't have to try extra hard for their orgasm. It will come on its own. There, the frequency of sex can be really high. Maybe even once or more times a day.

Partial proof is that sex dating sites are full of men and completely devoid of women, except for professionals. This cannot be attributed to the fact that women are not able to evaluate the harmlessness of a man over the Internet. On classic dating sites, the ratio of women to men is much more balanced than on sex dating sites.

For a man, sex is a mix of physical pleasure, the fun of communicating sexual fantasies, and the psychological confirmation that he is worthy of a woman. Or it is a physical exercise that, unlike regular physical training, does not require willpower or special effort. The man also has almost no risk of negative health effects.

Women also really see sex in a long-term relationship as a marital duty. For them, it is also a question of prestige in fulfilling the task that society expects from them in order for a man to function well. Men probably don't realize this much, and if they do, they perceive such thinking as slightly bizarre. For men, sex, with a few exceptions, is never a task, but always a pleasant affair.

Intelligence

There is no need to go beyond harmlessness and sufficient financial strength. Intelligent people have a more comfortable life, the question is whether it is also more varied or of better material quality.

Provider of safety from the environment

Sometimes women still put safety first before others. More so women who have been victims of an attack – that is perhaps even a higher percentage. Nowadays, however, men do not have this role. Most of the time, they are not physically and technically equipped for it and leave it more or less to the state. Basically, it needs to be narrowed down to harmlessness towards the woman (see above) and possibly help and reliability in a crisis situation. That is, you do not run away and leave your own wife or partner in trouble. But even the biggest jerks probably will not do that.

I experienced this with an acquaintance in Vietnam, when at the age of 27 he ran away with my wallet (which he was carrying in my backpack). But he probably wouldn't run away from a girl either. If someone was that much of a jerk, then clearly stay away from them. But it would be a complete extreme. Most couples will never find themselves in a situation where the man has to defend the woman. And when it comes to breaking bread and you fail with minor consequences of humiliation, you probably won't get big minus points for being timid. Great caution, even timidity, is a characteristic of most men today. In other words, you are not expected to defend the woman, but that you will not leave her in trouble. So it's not about providing security, but reliability (see the basic criterion of Long-term interest in a partner).

I am not aware that my good condition and many years of training in martial arts would ever give me an advantage with my girlfriends in the sense that they feel safe with me over others. Fear is natural, but I am not afraid to defend the right thing, an attempt is necessary. But I do not need to prove anything to myself – in an imminent conflict about nothing – about pseudo-honor – I would act more humbly than the heroes on TV. It would probably not be any different from the behavior of a person who is afraid. At least until the moment when there was a threat of immediate physical attack. I have only gotten into a crisis situation with my girlfriend or wife twice. I still needed to prove things to myself. Once I was unnecessarily easily provoked and the second time a Russian with an expensive Mercedes and a gold chain around his neck would not let us cross the street. We resolved it verbally. A normal man, i.e. a man of advanced age or without martial training, would never get into that situation.

One of my friends smuggled Chinese people into Germany. We collected thousands of dollars from various people in the community, visited gambling dens and places of petty economic crime. I didn't want to play a game I didn't know about for small money. My friend told me that I was still afraid. I have always been a man of the law and at 26 I was supervising the stock markets at the Czech National Bank :). Yes, I was a little nervous about it, but it wasn't a problem for our relationship. Women are able to tolerate a man's fear, as long as the man doesn't collapse. Women themselves know fear better than men and probably know how to work with fear better.

Penis size

In reality, a woman doesn't care about it at all. And if she does, then you have a sex shop Redpipi :). There's no need to worry about it. On an academic level, if a woman had 2 clones with a larger and smaller penis, she would choose the one with the larger one up to 20 cm (then she would want a smaller penis for comfort during sex). But that's all. In practice, she doesn't care about it at all.

Choice option

Why Women Want Men Who Have Options – Interesting video where a pretty young YouTuber wants a man who has the choice and chooses her. But untrue. You simply want the person for his qualities and you don't care if 10 other people are interested in him. The ego will tickle it, but that's all. It may be a signal of good qualities, but it's not essential. In the end, a woman will convince herself of a man's qualities anyway.

Other sources, the need to experience it and want to move on

I originally planned to add links to various studies and other similar articles. But women or studies mention, for example, a trait, “he is nice” and no one knows what it actually means. Studies also usually focus on one trait – for example, physique. There are no comprehensive articles on this topic on the Internet or YouTube. When I was 20, I had an entire book on it. I don't remember the content or whether it was good or not, but it didn't help me at all. One wouldn't be able to absorb such a large amount of content effectively anyway. Getting to know the world of women is also about experience, exploring women and oneself, and the desire to improve. A lot of people think that they don't need to change, that they are already done and good enough.

Vladimir Koranda