{"id":150241,"date":"2026-03-23T14:53:13","date_gmt":"2026-03-23T13:53:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/test.redpipi.com\/?p=150241"},"modified":"2026-03-29T08:53:02","modified_gmt":"2026-03-29T07:53:02","slug":"jak-se-seznamit-s-holkou-a-zenou","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/test.redpipi.com\/en\/jak-se-seznamit-s-holkou-a-zenou\/","title":{"rendered":"How to meet a girl and a woman"},"content":{"rendered":"

The key is to know, What women want in men<\/a> (separate article) and have the appropriate characteristics. Here we will develop this on specific behavior that works on women when dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The findings here are based largely on my observations - dating 100 women and interviews on this topic with 200 women aged 15-40 during the years 1998-2026.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Summary: A man's behavior towards a woman when meeting and in the early stages of dating<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Getting to know each other<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be clean-shaven, groomed. Show interest with a look, a smile, a compliment, and a request to contact you \u2013 ideally via email or social media. The phone is already too private. When a girl asks why you want to contact her, say that you like her. If she's committed, give up. If she hesitates, try a few emails. If she's in the mood to meet up, invite her for ice cream or a walk. Something casual where you can chat, not the cinema. Dinner may be on the cards, but it's okay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First date<\/strong> – conversation<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Without experience, dating will always be more or less awkward. Accept it. Sometimes a woman will forgive you, sometimes not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The hardest part of adolescence is having a conversation that both of you enjoy. There are few common, neutral topics that both of you enjoy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Space and occasional silence in conversation is ok.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Criticizing yourself, your partner, or others is a minefield \u2013 leave it for later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don't neglect the girl's appearance or qualities. Try to give a subtle compliment that fits the situation or the girl's story - just like you would compliment a friend. Ideally, combine the compliment with laughter or a joke to lighten the mood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Smile carefully \u2013 when you meet or when the situation is right. Smiling for no reason on a first date is perceived as unnatural and an attempt to score quick points.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Listen. Think about her words, even if you don't like them. Why did she say them? You'll get to know her and it'll be easier to get her or know that you're not compatible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gifts (sharing resources) in the early stages of dating are more of a burden \u2013 an inconvenience \u2013 an unwanted obligation. If a woman mentions something herself, even a small thing. By fulfilling it, you show not a gift but attention. That you have noticed and that you will notice more important things in the future. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

More details about a man and a woman getting to know each other<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Be shaved, groomed. Ideally, at least a little perfume under your armpits. More about all of them in the article What women want in men<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Contacting a foreign woman \u2013 2 tactics<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Most men rationally choose a woman from their surroundings. A classmate, a neighbor, a colleague, a woman from a common hobby, an acquaintance of friends. First of all, you will meet her more often and you have more chances. Repeated meetings automatically reduce the harmlessness of the man and the risk of rejection, or rather, there is the possibility of contacting the woman neutrally. That is a clear advantage. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, for a man who is demanding in terms of appearance, there is little chance of meeting a visually ideal woman in his environment and he will tend to approach women he does not know. Approaching a woman he does not know is very difficult. In addition to the fact that you only have one chance, a man must be prepared for rejection and subsequent immediate withdrawal, so that it does not become harassment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stick around until you're 25 or 30, then poop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You basically have 2 options \u2013 Smile with your eyes and aggressive tactics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you \u201csmile with your eyes\u201d, you express interest with a neutral look with interest, or a faint hint of a smile, surprise or desire. If a woman responds with a smile, it is a good time to ask for an email, etc. (not a phone call \u2013 that is too personal, see the Space section below). This is relatively safe and you don\u2019t have to worry so much about your awkwardness or rejection, but you can only get by with a really small percentage of girls. Most pretty girls have headphones on and are looking at the ground or their mobile phone. The second tactic is aggressive \u2013 shock. You greet the girl and say that you like her. If she is ok, you ask for an email. Why? I want to find out if we would be a good match and invite you for ice cream, a walk with ice cream\u2026 An invitation for coffee is already outdated and almost as perverse as a butterfly collection. An invitation for a drink is also outdated \u2013 but possible with people who have been meeting for a long time in their environment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accept rejection immediately and respectfully.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If she is engaged, smile, nod your head as a sign of respect and disappear. She might appreciate a friend, but friends don't come looking for each other on the street and you can't take her as a friend anyway. A man may see insisting even after being rejected as a sign of persistence - an expression of really great desire and devotion, but a woman will rightly see it as limiting her space and disrespect. If a woman is engaged and dissatisfied and wants to try you out, she won't mention her boyfriend. Sometimes a woman will also reject a man with the words "You're not my type". This doesn't mean, try harder, but I don't want you as a partner. I repeat, a decent rejection or negative hint from a strange woman means a full rejection with no possibility of correction. If the field is cleared quickly and respectfully, neither the woman nor the man will suffer any scars from the situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many women also carry the trauma of physical or sexual assault by a man. Expect an unreasonable, rude or insulting rejection from a woman. For these reasons, a woman may also banish you or treat you like a pervert, without it being your fault. That is also rejection and you should get out. You are not there to teach a woman a lesson in polite rejection or behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fear of approaching a woman<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You will always be afraid of being approached, rejected, and embarrassed. We can control or influence most things in our lives to a large extent. Approaching a woman is one of the few situations where we do not and cannot have similar control over a woman's reaction, even with our best efforts. By following the steps listed here, you will minimize the fear and scars of unsuccessfully approaching a woman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spontaneous approach on the street is perceived positively by most women, especially if the woman is single. She will be flattered and there is no risk of rejection from the man. If the woman is engaged, she will refuse and the result should be psychologically neutral for both. There may be a small percentage of women who are scared by an unknown man trying to contact them. This is problematic in places where a woman has nowhere to run \u2013 at school, at work, on public transport. There, of course, you are violating the woman's space.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among other things, a woman is very good at catching a man's gaze even in a split second, and perceives it peripherally from various angles, whether consciously or subconsciously. You can tell by the way she adjusts her hair. Staring here does not mean indecency, but a threat from a man to a woman. Therefore, it is good and natural to shyly lower your eyes when an unknown woman looks at you. This expresses humility and the absence of a threat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It works when you walk down the street and look down and the woman sees you first. When you look at a woman second, you are no longer a threat and you can even smile. Once or twice, when I was looking at my phone while walking and a woman walked towards me, it turned out funny and natural, luckily. First you see pretty legs, you move on with your gaze \u2013 a pretty figure and if the face is pretty too, you smile or laugh straight away. A stranger woman immediately knows what it is (out of nowhere a beautiful woman peeked out at a guy and he was surprised \ud83d\ude42 and laughs too. I think it could be worked on more often when getting to know someone and with a little caution.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes you need to find the courage and then have to catch up with a girl who is going the opposite direction. Do it with the words \u201cPlease wait\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to give a woman space<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

That is, not to call back the next day, but only in a few days \u2013 if the woman is visibly responding well. Or only after a few months or even years, if the man is in the friend zone. This is not a show about unavailability, but giving the woman space to form a more complete picture of the man in her mind over time. If the woman does not yet think of the man as a partner, enough time needs to pass for the next date and the man has another chance, as a partner and not as a friend. For example, if a woman does not respond to an SMS a few days after the first date \/ sex, it is not because she lost her phone or died, but because she does not want to. In the USA, they have a term for this, \u201cGhosting\u201d, which has been transferred to European languages. In the US, 40% people aged 18-29 have experienced ghosting<\/a>. Do not continue contact. This will definitely kill it even in a situation where the woman is still processing it and there is hope. The worst thing in this case is to go to the woman's home and ask. Not only do you take away the space that the woman wanted, but you also "confront" her at home. Everyone takes this badly as rudeness and a violation of privacy. Wait. How long? The correct answer is infinitely long<\/strong> in the sense of not closing the matter unnecessarily. There is no point in limiting yourself in the sense of "if I'm not worth your answer, then it's over". This is not about self-respect, but about unnecessary ego. Leaving aside the fact that a woman can really make decisions for a longer period of time, there is no point in killing something that a woman has already killed through lack of communication. How much will waiting help you? I don't know, ego always won for me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I estimate that waiting can return a woman's sympathy in the near or longer future in a third of cases. I estimate such a high percentage of renewed relationships because women tend not to have flings. Women evaluate more thoroughly at the beginning than men, and those who pass the test once have a chance to continue. Self-esteem, on the other hand, is also about coming to terms with the end and not even a second <\/strong>not to commit to a woman (i.e. keep looking) who hasn't even been able to let you know that you're not good enough for her. The exception is when you know what mistakes you made and how to fix them. Then you need to address the mistakes and say that you want to do things differently. And even if the girl dies and the guy doesn't know what's wrong with her for years (it happened to one of my friends in early puberty with a girl from another city and in a time without cell phones, the chances are now about 1 in a million), the same thing still applies - there's no place for you in the life of such a woman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Smile<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

It is very rare for an unknown woman to want a man to look her in the eye. She will then make it clear with a smile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A man's smile at an unknown woman is a double-edged sword. A man should smile at an unknown woman with his eyes at most. Otherwise, he risks too much for too little. A woman sees a man's smile as a threat to her or sometimes as mocking her (in the sense of, I don't know what you're laughing at, my pants are dirty or what?).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you pass an unknown woman on the street and have nothing to lose, a light test smile at her is better than nothing. As a rule, a woman will not smile back. She will perceive your smile as a threat or a desire to get to know her, which she is not in the mood for at the moment. Younger women may even be understood by some as you mocking them. If a woman smiles back, it may mean a willingness to answer a question or to chat briefly, or possibly even sympathy. Smiling back out of politeness is less likely. A woman's natural caution to avoid contact with a strange man prevents her from returning a smile out of politeness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you know the woman from the neighborhood and there is a good chance that you will see her again, a test smile brings more risks than benefits. If the sympathy is only from the man, a test smile can intimidate the woman and reduce the chance of a better opportunity. On the contrary, if you have mutual sympathy, you will often find a way to each other sooner or later. It is then better to postpone the smile or contact until a slightly better opportunity arises than just passing by. In the meantime, you can also observe whether the woman has a boyfriend, or what she might like and what to invite her to \u2013 entice her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Smaller or larger concerts are ideal. If you are both a little drunk. You can even ask single girls directly about touching their hands, shoulders or hips. With the understanding that you want nothing more than to caress the girl. Don't abuse trust and really don't touch intimate areas until you get a very clear signal that it's okay and you're okay with it. Good flirting is a stronger experience than good sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First date<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Space and occasional silence in conversation<\/strong> it's okay.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

It's stupid to miss a date, but the occasional silence isn't stupid or awkward. It gives you time to gather your thoughts and also allows the girl to start her own topic. If a girl is interested in a topic, try to find something about it that interests you and talk more about it. If you can't think of anything, just be quiet for a while. Maybe the girl will develop it herself. Suppress your ego and give her space. Have thoughts and opinions, but don't fill the entire space with your thoughts and opinions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Always have a program and a backup program. For example, a trick or a funny or interesting story from the past, or a story that is somehow related to the girl, that will entertain her. You can ask how girls look at certain things. It's not stupid. The female and male worlds are quite different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Silence can also lead to a touch or a kiss. The girl will gather her thoughts or relax and find that she wants more. If you keep showering her with verbal stimuli in an attempt to entertain her, the kiss may not happen. But the conversation should definitely last more than 50% of time. Otherwise, it's a strong sign that it's not working or that the girl doesn't want you. That is, unless you jumped straight into bed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Criticizing yourself, your partner, or others is a minefield \u2013 leave it for later.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Make jokes, but not at the expense of the girl (she's inexperienced, easily vulnerable). Even if you can't entertain a girl or say something stupid, you can express your doubts and shoot yourself down "I guess I just said something stupid" and laugh (like they do on TV). But that's the end of it - don't explain it any further and don't unnecessarily criticize yourself for being a loser (they also do that on TV, but with friends of several years). It's self-centered and, moreover, like begging a girl for comfort. Everyone makes mistakes. And dealing with it well shows self-confidence (unless you blurt out something stupid in every third sentence \ud83d\ude42 - then that just shows stupidity). It's better to remain silent than to criticize yourself. Criticism from others is also a minefield and it's better not to be the first to do it. Even a certain clumsiness in expressing interest is tolerated and can seem nice, but only once. If it doesn't work out for you, give it some more time before trying again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Empathy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Observe and sense when a woman disagrees or is even shocked by your words. She often won't say it. She might just be silent and look a little surprised or scared. Work with it, for example, "I think that top shocked you a little." And explain more about what you mean or ask why the girl sees it differently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Praise and awards<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Compliments are a minefield. Trying to get easy points can be perceived as invading a girl's space (that you expect something in return). Try to give subtle compliments that fit the situation or the girl's story - just like you would compliment a friend. Don't waste your time verbally praising a girl's appearance at the beginning of a date. Appearance can be appreciated more at the beginning with a sincere smile or surprise. Leave verbal compliments on appearance for a while and if they don't come, maybe on another date. Appreciation of appearance is a trump card that should be saved. Repeatedly praising a girl's or woman's appearance = minus points. Even if she's an athlete and you're completely done with her figure. Imagine if a girl repeatedly complimented you like that...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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First touch<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

It's frustrating not to touch a girl, and it's not always wrong to touch her, but it's quite a minefield. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In general, the first touches should be left to the woman as the physically weaker one and also because a woman evaluates a man longer than a man evaluates a woman. Here the media image (leaving it to the girls) matches reality. Alternatively, wait until a really strong moment with touching as a man. You can also get into a situation where you steal each other's touches or kisses, the woman is uncomfortable with it, but she doesn't know how to let you know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A kiss goodbye is basically politeness on every date, sometimes even between just friends, unless it somehow went wrong. You won't ruin anything by doing so. Then there are those childhood loves and encounters when a girl wants to try a first kiss and holding hands and she doesn't care who it's with (as long as he's nice to her). There you can have more courage. In a long-term relationship, on the other hand, touches are welcomed as attention, as long as they don't force sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to a 2020 US study Half of American adults say dating has gotten harder in the past 10 years<\/a> (over 10,000 respondents) is a kiss is on a first date is ok always 15%, 58% sometimes, 18% rarely, 9% never. According to the study, 35% women and 9% men under the age of 40 experienced unpleasant touching on a date. 42% women and 15% men were pressured into sex. 25% girls and 19% boys received unsolicited intimate photos of their partner. 16% vs 11% experienced their sexual past being revealed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First sex<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

I added the section later. I realized that half of the girls we had sex with on the first date. When having sex on the first date, she will never be a virgin, so there is no need to hold back. After sex, the girl is usually sensitive or in shock about what she did and why. It is good to stay with her and be there for her. For example, don't go swimming, don't drive home. If the girl wants to leave after sex, you need to pay close attention and ask what went wrong, that you want to fix it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first sex with most women (unless she's really into sex) is always milder. The first sex can be a bit of a flirt, hype and hormones, and a bit of a disappointment. That's why it's good for a girl to be ready to caress and soothe her. Apologize for something she didn't do and talk. In the morning or when she leaves you disappointed that evening (in the absence of orgasm, but of feeling), it's too late. It can't be fixed then, unless you know the problem quite precisely and address it with her. If a girl has already slept with you and it's not working, you still have a small window of a few weeks, but you always want to know what you want to do differently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2020 US study Nearly Half of US Adults Say Dating Has Got Harder for Most People in the Last 10 Years<\/a> It also states that sex on the first date is always ok 5%, 25% sometimes, 27% rarely, 42% never. Of that, men would like it in 39% and women in 21%. I wonder if swingers clubs are counted there \u2013 see. Top Secret Swingers Club Report<\/a>. But preferences are not that important here \u2013 it's all about the power of the evening, the power of the moment and even alcohol. What will we talk about :).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don't thank her for sex during the dating phase. It's like saying she's doing it for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, when a girl comes to your house or invites you over, she's working on the idea of sex in her head, even if she explicitly refuses it beforehand. That doesn't mean there will be sex. Leave it to the girl.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Communication training from childhood<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

We never had sex with any of the 80% girls over 18 that I dated. The average man would probably be more successful. I only picked the prettiest girls and didn't know how to talk to them because I was just playing around on the computer or playing sports. It often ended after the first or a few dates.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Train in the company of girls from childhood. Go out with classmates or friends when you are young. Not on a date, but in a group just for a chat or a drink. See how girls have fun, how they react to boys. What they appreciate in boys. This does not mean that you will like everything. Especially boys in puberty do not understand contact with girls at all. They do not know how to deal with it and, like in the movies, they try to show mental strength that they do not yet have. Humility and decent behavior are in order here, even if you feel like saying strong, supposedly heroic words like on TV, that no one is good enough for you, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Positive attention from very young girls in the neighborhood \u2013 the boy is nice and positively funny<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

For young girls from around the house or from elementary school, the demands are low because the guy has nothing to offer. Be positively nice and the girl will be curious. It doesn't matter that you can't do anything or what you look like.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Guaranteed magic tricks for picking up girls that you can learn quickly<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

He he he he. It's like they don't exist. Not that you should laugh like an idiot. But communication training from a young age in the company of friends and a good figure will do half the job or more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vladimir Koranda<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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